I really think God is after CONTROL in many of us! I notice that when people are determined to get it together, lose the extra weight, try harder to solve this seemingly endless problem, etc, often their eating gets worse. It’s a pattern that I am still trying to understand.
I was reading this morning about grace (again). Grace is a gift that we all need for the rest of our lives. We are saved by grace, but then we are instructed to live in the manner in which we are saved … which is… by grace.
We are saved when we receive a revelation of God’s love… sending His son and His death on the cross for our lives. That’s how I got saved. I was blown over by His personal love as demonstrated by Jesus dying on the Cross, just for me, even if I was the only person alive. Love blew me over – and I accepted His salvation gift and received Jesus into my life. It was a work He did in me, by His revelation, and I opened up in trust to receive that which was given to me. It was a gift that changed my life forever.
How to Live
Now, we are instructed,
So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.
We don’t know how to do that. Seriously… we know how to work harder, strive, make a decision and then find ourselves failing again in our efforts. We are clueless how to live by the same way in which we were saved. And we aren’t really taught it, either.
It is all about trust in His love. Period. His one way love toward us. I don’t know how to live that way, either!! But I am learning.
I am learning to say, “Lord, I don’t have a clue how to fix this. I’m unable to do this. I’m not strong in this area. I can’t figure it out. I don’t have the wisdom and strength in myself. But I have You. So I ask and trust you to do this in me. In you, I have it all! You in me, that’s the answer. And thank You that you love me and accept me TOTALLY just as I am, even before we get this ironed out!”
A Common Struggle
Most of the people I work with struggle with this issue, which includes performance orientation, perfectionism, works orientation, wanting control and feeling like failures when things don’t go well. It’s across the board with people who struggle with their eating and weight. There’s a theme and a message here…. GIVE UP CONTROL!!!!!
He promises to never leave you nor forsake you. You have him and you are NEVER alone! You don’t need yourself and all your lofty answers! (speaking to myself, too!!).
The more panicked you become concerning your eating/weight, the worse it becomes. I know this! So, take some time and commit to relax in Him as He works in you, whatever you are struggling with. Begin each day saying that in yourself, you can’t overcome this. But you can relax and ask Him to overcome it, in you. You can trust His love for you and focus on that, instead of focusing on getting it all right and all together.
I suggest a different goal than losing pounds and focusing on weight alone. How about focusing on releasing control, not having all the answers, living a dependent life with Jesus, and gaining more peace and trust as you allow Him to do a deep work in you?!
This is living by grace. I pray that we get it.
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